85% of counsellors registered with the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) are of menopausal age. A questionnaire prepared by a psychotherapy student from Nottingham University as part of her dissertation on the menopause revealed that most therapists believe that ‘training in and support with the menopause within the professional is “essential.”’ Yet there … More Counsellors and Psychotherapists: Alarming lack of knowledge about the menopause
This time the workshop took place in Sailsbury with a group of 16 therapists and counsellors. Five (including the only man – thanks again, for being there) were in their fifties and (apart from the male therapist) well into the menopause. Ten were in their forties, and one – a pregnant counsellor who worked with … More Another Day Talking About Sex, Meaning and the Menopause
Following my article in Therapy Today on Menopause: How Women Suffer in Silence, I have started to run a series of workshops on Sex, Meaning and the Menopause aimed at counsellors and therapists to develop better awareness of working with older women, how the menopause affects relationships, and the impact of early onset menopause on younger women. Last … More A day of talking about sex, aging and the menopause, not forgetting ‘hot tongue’.
I feel another soapbox rant coming on. On the train to London I read a left-behind Daily Mail. ‘Fight the Change’ cried the headline of Life and Style section. For those suffering from dry skin caused by the menopause, new products promise to turn back the clocks. ‘Fortunately,’ said the article, ‘skinscare companies realise there’s … More Fight the Change – yet again
By chance this morning, I ended up having a long telephone conversation with Sheila, a friend I haven’t spoken to for a while. I say by chance, because I had arranged to talk to her husband about a work matter. Much to Sheila’s embarrassment, he had forgotten our appointment and was having the time of … More Stress can bring on early menopause
Following the article, Will YOUR marriage survive the menopause? (adapted from Sex, Meaning and the Menopause) in last week’s Femail section of the Daily Mail, I received an email from a distraught reader. He was very concerned about the state of his own marriage. According to her GP, his wife had gone through the menopause a few … More Marriage, menopause, and the importance of good communication
I woke up this morning feeling as grey as the day. I’m often like this when I’ve come back from a trip on our narrow boat, the Molly May. There’s something special about slowing down the pace of life to three miles an hour, and passing a clutch of new-born ducklings scuttling over the water … More Ducks, narrow boats, and the simple order of things
I loved the royal wedding last Friday. A truly magical occasion, and – rare these days, sadly – I felt proud to be British. Egged on by my friend Meg, resplendent in a mother-of-the-groom frock she wore to her own son’s nuptials a few years back, I was very happy to enter into the spirit of the … More The Royal Wedding and the death of bin Laden. What’s next?
Last week was a bit of an emotional roller coaster for me. So, while I applaud Lord Richard Layard’s enthusiasm for launching his Action for Happiness movement this week (inspired by Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project), I do wonder whether those in the government pursuing this agenda understand just how complex, contradictory and sometimes dark the pursuit … More Lord Layard’s Action for Happiness, and the wisdom of Carl Jung
Happy International Women’s Day! I’ve just clicked as a virtual participant for the Millennium Bridge celebrations, led by the awesome 57-year-old Annie Lennox. Now, there’s a role model for women afraid of ageing. It seems to me that Annie has clocked life, and is making the most of every stage she reaches.