This article first appeared in the spring 2017 issue of Thresholds, published by the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy©’. I wrote this article on the ageing process for the BACP’s spring edition of their Thresholds magazine. They have kindly agreed for me to post it on my blog. Growing up into Growing Older I … More Growing up into Growing Older
Eleven of us met up in Cirencester in Jane’s lovely garden lodge, surrounded by nodding daffodils and clusters of primroses. Right from the start a distinct theme emerged, which focused on preparing for death. “I would like to know the day and hour of my death,’ said one participant. ‘I like being in control, and … More Cirencester March Death Cafe: Clear out your stuff!
A couple of days ago I spent an overnight at the wonderful Elephant Village, about 20 kilometres from Luang Prabang, laid-back northern capital of Laos. Fourteen very fortunate females elephants, and two of their babies, live in harmony together – all saved from a miserable existence in logging camps. The Village was set up by … More What Would Buddha Make of it All?
Envy consists in seeing things never in themselves, but only in their relations. If you desire glory, you may envy Napoleon, but Napoleon envied Caesar, Caesar envied Alexander, and Alexander, I daresay, envied Hercules, who never existed. Bertrand Russell I was really touched by the number of people who signed up to my blog after … More Be My Valentine: what envy and jealousy does to love
Our January death café happened to fall on the bitterly cold and frosty day of Donald Trump’s inauguration. But this did not stop us from engaging in very lively discussion about our experiences of death and dying, whether consciousness continues after we die, or the sensitivity of animals and birds around death and dying. Several … More First Pop-up Death Cafe in 2017: giving permission for the dying to go
I’ve been thinking a lot about loneliness recently. Christmas and New Year are a good time for that. It’s so easy to fall into some kind of envy that makes you feel that your life is less than everyone else’s and separates you even from yourself. I imagine like many of you reading this, I … More Loneliness: a Spiritual Odyssey
I have purposefully not published this blog until the Winter Solstice. The Solstice is about the bringing back of the light. I believe death cafes do just that. They bring people together to shed light on the darkness and fear of death. So, this blog is to wish all of you who read it a … More November Pop-up Death Cafe: Discussing the moment of death, and dealing with regrets